Grown-up Friendships and a Little Gift for You

Children make friends in 2.3 seconds. That is in no way a clinical assessment, of course, but a simple observation on my part.

No joke. My kids are off to the playground and literally as soon as she?s stepped foot into the wood chips, my six-year-old is holding the hand of a little-girl-stranger and they are play acting at fairies and mermaids.

Happens every time.

Adults are hard pressed to become friends that quickly. It takes us closer to 2.3 years. Again, I learn that not from empirical data but from living life. And especially when friendships change from youth-fueled, school-fueled relationships to the ones we have to maintain as adults, things can be at the very least tricky.

Most friendships don?t make it through that transition. {That?s why we have those embarrassing things called reunions}

And what the heck are adult friendships supposed to look even like? When we are young we are conditioned to understand that regular contact with friends somehow equals close relationship and irregular connection means we?ve drifted.

What about when people get married or get new jobs or move to Hemet (which, for all intents and purposes, it is as if they?ve moved to the moon)? What happens when life and kids and church and everything else puts natural barriers between me and someone I love very much and want to maintain relationship with?

We just make it work.

Lisa and I?ve been friends for a very long time and we?ve seen our friendship move from everyday college roommate living, to once a month supper clubs, to now, our much more intentional friendship. She lives 4 hours away from me yet we make it work to see each other several times a year.

Is it ideal? No. Do I wish she lived next door and our kids rode bikes down the street together? Of course. Do I wish I could call her up right now and meet up in 15 minutes for a hike or a long chat over tea? Yes. But that isn?t what life is for us.

And that?s okay. We make it work as it is.

I don?t know what a good adult friendship is supposed to look like, but I know what ours does. And it is very good.

Lisa has a new line out from Dayspring called the Lisa Leonard Faith Collection . It is available only from Dayspring and not available on her site at all. It?s a beautiful collection of hand stamped, personally crafted jewelry pieces that reflect the journey that we are all on together: as women, sisters, and as friends.

Here?s a little gift for my readers: Enter LLD15 at checkout and you can get %15 off of any of the Lisa Leonard Faith Collection ? items. That code is only good until September 15th.

And until Friday only the By Grace Alone Necklace will still be $10 dollars off (which means it?s only $26 until the end of August).

My personal favorite is the Well With My Soul Necklace. I love it.

Click here to shop the Lisa Leonard Faith Collection .

What does grown-up friendship look like to you? Has it been hard to make those transitions with friends?

Source: http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2012/08/grown-up-friendships/

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